KEyS 4 a hAppy MaRr!age

       As we've probably heard,nearly half of all marriages now end in divorce,leaving bitter spouses and confused children in their wake.Don't let this happen to us!Whether our marriage is going through tough times or experiencing marital bliss,or even ur not yet married but considering it,I just wanna share to u guys of what I've heard in the seminars I've attended before in order to add our ideas how to keep a happy relationship towards our husband and wife just to help our marriage last and successful:

      *Establish your own private home:A married couple must leave father and mother and establish their own home,and remain firm no matter happen.

      *Continue your courtship:Continue the courtesies of courtship in your marriage and must be developed,dont take each other forgranted,keep love growing by expressing love for one another.Love and happiness are not found by seeking them for yourself,but rather by giving them to others.So spend as much time as possible doing things together if u would get along well.Learn to greet each other with enthusiasm.Relax,visit,shop,sightsee,eat together.Don't overlook the courtesies,encouragements,and affectionate acts.Surprise each other with little gifts or favors.Try to out love each other.

       *Remember that GOD joined u together in marriage:God intends for you to stay togetherand be happy.He will bring happiness and love into ur lives if u will obey His devine rules,with GOD all things are possible so don't despair...God places love in the heart.

        *Guard ur thoughts-don't let senses trap u:The wrong kind of thinking will destroy marriage,dont let senses govern actions.Avoid seeing,saying,reading,or hearing anything that ( or associating with anyone who )suggest impurity or unfaithfulness.

         *Never retire for the night angry with each other:According to the bible don't let the sun go down on ur wrath,,let anger cool before retiring at night.Be big enough to forgive and to say sincerity,I'm sorry.

         *Keep Christ in the center of ur home:With Christ in the home,marriage will be successful,The gospel is the cure of all marriages that are filled with hatred,bitterness,and dissapointment.

          *Pray together:Pray aloud for each other,kneel before GOD and ask him true love for one another,for forgiveness,for strenght,for wisdom-for the solution to problems.No family ever breaks up while sincerely praying together fo GOD'S help.

           *Keep the family circle closed tightly:Solve ur home problems privately,no one else should ever be involved,always be truthful with each other and never keep secrets from each other.

           *Love make it your daily goal measure up:Love is not a sentimental impulse,but a holy principle that involves every phase and action of life.

           *Avoid critism and nagging:A sense of humor,a cheerful heart,kindness,patience,and affection will banish two thirds of ur marriage problems,Try to make ur spouse happy rather than good,and the good will take care of itself.

           *Be temperate

           *Respect each other's personal rights and privacies:Do not tamper with each other's wallets or purses,personal mails,and other private property unless given permission.Perfect confidence and trust in one another,no checking up on each other,is absolutely essential for happiness.

           *Be clean ,modest,orderly,and dutiful:

           *Speaks softly and kindly:

           *Be reasonable in money matters:

           *Talk things over and counsel together freely.

 Divorce is not the answer and not the solution of our problems,instead it creates much greater problems.The real secret of true happiness in the home is not diplomacy,strategy,and untiring effort to evercome problems,but rather ,union with Christ.